Cheating: Deal-breaker or not?

So, I finally caught up on Hart of Dixie.

Last week couldn't have been any more leading but I had hoped I was very wrong.

Season 2, Episode 16: Wade admits he cheated on Zoe.

This in itself was a WTF moment for me because since day one, anyone with eyes could see that Bluebell's favorite playboy was smitten with the petite doctor. He had sooo wanted her for sooo long that for him to flip out like this and cap it with an indiscretion makes me ask so many questions.

I'm now pondering on the idea of cheating. 

Is it a total, absolute deal-breaker or not?

I would like to make the claim that I have never been cheated on. So few and particular were my past relationships that I'm hoping no one's going to pop over a message to me to make a correction. Anyway, the point is, I don't really know what I would do because I've never been in that situation.

It's hard for me to process the fact that one could get intimate with another person when you're very in love with another. Someone might tell me I'm a woman and sex is very emotionally-involved for us. I might be tempted to automatically agree but now I'm wondering if that's true or not.

I can't imagine being intimate with someone I don't love and there's never been more than one at a time so I don't know how you could do or not do it. Can you really get so drunk that you don't have the slightest idea that possibly going home with a girl or a guy who is not your official special someone isn't registering?

And maybe because I don't have the personal experience, I might possibly lack the wisdom to fully understand the issue. And maybe because of this, I've always been leaning towards it being an absolute deal-breaker. Ask my husband. I've made graphic descriptions enough times about how he's going to pay for it if he pulls one on me. LOL.

As for writing it into books, it's come up a lot as a major obstacle and it's always tricky to work it in a relationship that you mostly want to work but you have to break down a bit.

Zoe was so right when she said that Wade should have known that it was the one thing... (she trailed off here but we all know what she couldn't say...)

Sigh.

I adore Wade. 

I want to smack him on the head. 

I still want them together but will it ever be the same? 

No. I don't believe that things ever go back the same way after something like that. 

Question is, will it be better or worse?